What brought you here?

A relationship. A pattern. Intense feelings. Differences you cannot square?

Try to name it as specifically as you can. Even when you feel judgmental. Even when you don't want to dredge up the worst moments of the day.

Worth looking at. The charge you feel between you and another person is an aspect of your life asking to be met.

This is what I discovered in the laboratory of my own life. The more I explore, the more bounty and beauty I find there. This is a creative process of meeting my Self and expressing my Self to my Self.

And I have never stopped exploring it since.

For years I brought my unworthiness into every shared space.

I thought I was bringing love. Nobody teaches you this.

Not your parents. Not your schools. Not your partners.

I discovered it by accident, in the fire, because I was already listening.

The threshold doesn't wait for quiet.

It lives inside the noise.

I found it there and I have never stopped returning.

I found my Self in the holding.

I held all my contradictory feelings on my own side of our shared space.

For the first time I could see between us clearly.

The pain had found its home in me and the space between us opened.

My feelings had a home.

And that changed everything.

I felt nourished. One small step back toward my Self.

Giving from the overflow, to my Self and to my true desires.

When you return to your Self, every relationship you are in feels it. You already know the way back.

This is where the return begins.